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SexToy Cal is a Relationship and Romance Consultant. He believes everyone should embrace, enjoy and appreciate their sexuality. We encourage all adults to explore their sensuality and find new ways heighten their physical pleasures and lead a “Sex Positive” lifestyle. We offer a private place where you can find the best adult sex toys and movies as well as learn more about sex and sexuality. SexToy Cal offers an array of sex toys that include vibrators (rabbits included of course), dildos in every size and color (check out the realistics), anal sex toys, male masturbators and more. We also have a huge catalog of adult movies ranging from award winning features like Pirates to instructional videos such as Nina Hartely’s Guide to Stripping for Your Partner. Whatever your pleasure you’re sure to find something new. The most important thing is to make sure you have fun while you explore and learn more about your sexuality. If you have any questions or would like to learn more about our Romance Parties or even schedule a FREE Private Romance Consultation for you, your spouse or your partner, contact me here or call me at 1-818-219-4165.

Right now I'm seeing people in the Los Angeles and surrounding counties. Call or email to make an appointment in advance. The following is a list of the most common issues people talk about in session:

How to be a better lover, how to have orgasms, how to have multiple orgasms, how to have G-spot orgasms, how to have orgasms during sex, anal sex, threesomes, how to increase one's libido, what to do if you're partner has cheated, what to do to bring back a waning sex life, what to do f you're partner isn't interested in sex with you, sex during pregnancy, sex after kids, sexual abuse, sex toys, Kama Sutra sex, penis size, how to make one's penis perfom, erectile dysfunction, crossdressing and just about anything else you can think of.

Our Romance Parties and Romance Consultations are affiliated with Temptations Parties owned by Adam & Eve and The Sinclair Intimacy Institute (creater of the Better Sex Series). We are also a proud sponser of DKT International, which provides family planning, contraception and HIV/AIDS prevention to many impoverished countries. A portion of all Temptation Parties proceeds goes to DKT International so they can ensure that contraceptives and services are available when and where they are needed most. For more information go to http://www.dktinternational.org/

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Happy Valentine's Day! Betty Dodson & Carlon Ross answer questions on sex and love.

Wednesday

5 Super Fun and Free Dates

1. Check out the local Farmers Markets in your area. You can fill up on free samples of succulent fruits and who knows what else...;)

2. Go for a hike and find private places for making out.

3. I bet you have a friend who has an extensive movie collection. Borrow some movies and have a movie marathon night.

4. There are all kinds of restaurants and bars offering free happy hours or free something. Do a search online for free food and drinks in your area and go there.

5. If you both like to play video games and you just happen to own a few. Play them together. Competition makes for great foreplay!

Thursday

How to manage a waning sex drive

SEX is for procreation—what God intended it for. But consenting adults also believe that sex is more than just physiological activity. It can, under right conditions, elevate a couple’s relationship to new levels of pleasure and completion that transcend the physical.

Love involves romance and desire. The ancient Sanskrit word for desire is kama. “The Kamasutra” is the book of erotica that teaches everything about desiring a beloved. While desire may seem founded on “lower drives” or selfish interests, it is very much a part of romance.

This longing to be together is consummated by merging with the beloved on all possible levels of communication—body, heart and spirit. That is how sex takes on a multi-dimensional definition—the union of lovers with intention and passion.

But kama is used not just to describe sexual desire, but also a desire to be united with God. If the spiritual self is a reflection of God, then making love is also an act of connecting with the spiritual self.

In his book “The Path to Love,” Deepak Chopra, MD, wrote, “the ideal sexual act is when passion gives in to surrender—the letting go of control of one’s separateness to liberate the body and spirit. When this natural flow happens, true intimacy begins.”

Thus, intimacy isn’t just about having orgasms, but about two people who can be physically intimate and united. Many couples have sex without necessarily becoming “one.”

Signs

What if you wake up one morning and find that the feeling is gone? Do you walk out on your partner? Give up your relationship? Or find out what’s wrong with you?

Chances are, time has caught up with you. Men and women experience a loss of appetite for intimacy at some point.

Before you start blaming your partner, your religious beliefs or God, have a hormone test. It may just be a hormonal imbalance. The signs include unexplained weight gain, allergies, mood swings, depression, irritability, fatigue, erectile dysfunction, memory loss, etc. No matter how hard you try, you don’t feel together. Your endocrine system needs fine-tuning.

Suzanne Somers in “Breakthrough: 8 Steps To Wellness” interviewed Dr. Jennifer Berman about the connection between health and sexuality. The doctor said that sexual health can be compromised by inflammation (due to infection), stress, hormonal imbalance and nutritional deficiencies.

It has also been determined that the presence of chemicals in food (i.e., preservatives, coloring, flavor enhancers) and air pollution can affect the sex drive and hormone production.

So, before you say “I’m not turned on by him or her anymore,” think again. There are other causes. Many marriages have ended because of this little-understood biological challenge.

Tips

Try hormone replacement therapy. Remember that the deep loss of hormones can lead to bone disease, arthritis, cardiovascular problems and Alzheimer’s Disease.

Prevention is key. Don’t wait until your body starts unraveling. The biggest killer of women is hormonal decline.

Have a blood test to check your adrenal and hormonal levels. See an endocrinologist and ask about human growth hormone injections.

Meditate. Meditation increases the chemical reserves of the brain that enhances mood and body energy.

Exercise and live a healthy life. Increase your exercise regimen. Take antioxidants, eat a balanced diet rich in live enzymes (raw fruits and vegetables), and consider natural herbal supplements. Other herbal acids are black cohosh, red clover.

Do something new. Change you routine or habits by doing something different. Make new friends or learn a new hobby or skill.

Take a “soothe bath” weekly. Develop a renewed sense of connection with yourself. Surround yourself with calm music, candlelight and aromatherapy. Try Cocozen Lavender drops in a warm bath. Soak for seven to ten minutes. Close your eyes and do your affirmation: “The fountain of youth is inside me."

Conversations with Women: Masturbation

The taboo of masturbation for women has been with us a very long time. Here is a informative video about masturbation from a woman's point of view. Little Plum Pictures talks to women about masturbation, orgasms, the clitoris, and sex.

Saturday

Kegelmaster Marie Claire Magazine

The Kegelmaster 2000 Was Featured in Marie Claire Magazine

Your Best Orgasm Ever!

“The Kegelmaster is the best and most effective device in helping a woman achieve more frequent, stronger, longer lasting and more satisfying orgasms!”"SEX IS DEFINITELY BETTER.” -Faith, 34, graphic designer

“After only a short time using the Kegelmaster I began experiencing intense full-body orgasms during intercourse. The best orgasms I have ever had. Sex is definitely better!”

DEVICE - The Kegelmaster, Only $98.95

WHAT IT IS - A device that tones your PC muscle using resistance.

HOW IT WORKS - You insert it into your vagina, then you practice squeezing and releasing the device by tightening your vaginal wall around it.

WHAT WE FOUND - “When I opened the box I thought it was really funny looking. But it was easy to use. I started with the lowest of fifteen tension settings and worked up to level five by the end of a four weeks.”

BETTER ORGASM - “Yes. Sex is definitely better for both me and my partner after using it. He says I feel tighter – and I can feel how strongly I contract, especially during orgasm."

BIOFEEDBACK - “Faith’s muscles were healthy and well balanced to begin with, and she added even more stamina by doing these exercises, which accounts for her positive results,” says Dr. Glazer.

The Kegelmaster is truly amazing in what it can do for your sex life. In fact, we are so confident that the Kegelmaster will improve your sex life, that if you are not completely satisfied, return it and Kegelmaster, LTD will refund 500% of your money! Nowhere else will you find a company with the confidence to stand behind their product like this!

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Sunday

Anal sex toys for men :: Aneros G-Spot Stimulator

"I bought one of these as a gift for my long-suffering OH after reading the reviews on here. He's too much of a big girl's blouse to write his own review, though. The Aneros looks wonderful, made from a single piece of medical-grade plastic so no nasty joins to scratch at you and incredibly easy to clean. It's also very unobtrusive-looking - you could leave it lying about and no-one would really know what it was for. If you're new to P play, do be sure to read the instructions carefully."

Kathy Wilson
Los Angeles, CA

Aneros is a patented line of male sex toys designed to massage and stimulate the prostate for sexual pleasure. The Aneros was originally developed as a device for prostate massage, intended as an alternative means to treat a variety of prostate problems like prostatitis and BPH. The Aneros can be used by men of all sexual orientations.

The Aneros is known as the Enemagra in Japan.



Who else wants mind numbing, leg shaking, male G-spot orgasms? Get your own Aneros G-Spot Stimulator HERE!.

Tuesday

4 Ways to Improve Your Love Life

by SHAPE Magazine,

1. Have more fun in bed
To spice up your sex life, skip the lingerie and buy sneakers instead. People who regularly work up a sweat outside the bedroom feel more sexually desirable, finds a study at the University of Arkansas. Other research from Duke University Medical Center shows that when overweight men and women lost just 10 percent of their body weight, they enjoyed sex more. Get moving and watch your between-the-sheets confidence soar.

2. Limit your TV time
Research from Purdue University reveals that people who chat while the TV is blaring look at their companions 36 percent less often than they do when it's turned off—and that results in a less satisfying exchange. "Even if TV serves as background noise, you're distracted," says study author Glenn Sparks, professor of communication. His recommendation: Watch only the shows you truly love. "With the set turned off the rest of the time," says Sparks, "you'll create more opportunities for conversation and be able to focus on your loved one as you talk."

3. Laugh together
Laughter can lower blood pressure and burn calories, but it may also strengthen your bond with your guy. According to a new study in the journal Motivation and Emotion, couples who reminisced about sharing a laugh were more satisfied with their relationships than those who didn't. "Laughing together builds a supply of good memories," says lead author Doris Bazzini. "You'll call on it later, when times get tough."

4. Communicate better
Some people say you shouldn't have serious conversations in the bedroom, but it can be one of the best places for couples to reconnect without distractions. Here are some communication-improving tips:

* Set aside time to just talk in bed. Though many couples find nighttime the most convenient, others may prefer to have coffee together in bed in the a.m.

* Put the cell phones in another room; then turn off the computers, PDAs, and the ringer on the landline.

* Keep it positive. Never start the conversation with an accusation or question, advises Sally. So instead of saying, "Why don't we ever go out anymore?" try, "I wish we could spend more time together."

* Don't rule any topic out of bounds. It's all about reconnecting once a day, without any outside distractions. And who knows, she says, a great conversation may lead to something else!

Sex & Coffee

This is a story from a satisified customer that drinks Magic Power Coffee...

Wow, what a weekend. We had some coffee on Friday night and then the weekend was full of sex. I have never seen my man hard so many times. The wind would blow and he would come bounding to my side to show me, proudly that I needed to come play.
We were just casually enjoying the evening, sitting under the tree in the back yard, enjoying a beverage...then the wind blew...
After that first round of wild and crazy sex our stamina was a little less, but each time seemed like we were still newly weds. He caressed and purred in all the right places. We were definitely pleasuring each other to the fullest. Hot steamy kisses, massaging, and of course, penetration...deep penetration.

The weekend is over now, and it's back to work we go, but memories of passion resurface each time I feel muscles that were a little overworked. It brings a smile to my face. People are probably wondering all day what caused the smile that never left. If they only knew what combining a little coffee & sex would get them.

Jenn
www.AphrodisiacCoffee.com